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Create a weekly Sex Date ritual to build a strong sexual foundation with your partner.

Did you know 70% of couples have sex one day a week or less? Consistent sex in a relationship is important for exploring your and your partner’s sexuality. Scheduling a weekly sexual ritual creates space for sexual exploration and helps develop a deeper connection with your partner. If you’re in a long-term relationship, looking to spice things up or exploring sex in a new relationship, you can benefit from incorporating intimacy exercises into your sexual rituals. 

Want to learn a simple, yet effective exercise you can try regardless of where you’re at in a relationship? Let’s talk about scheduling a Sex Date! 

How To Play

Schedule a date with your partner at the same time every week. This can be 8:00 p.m. on a Friday or 2:00 p.m. on Tuesday – find what works for your schedules. Plan for the date to last at least two hours. If you’re a new parent, try for just 30 minutes at first! 

Set up your room with what’s needed for the date – this can be toys, fantasies, games, whatever you and your partner agree on. I have more ideas below. Be sure to be on time and plan for time post-sex. 

That’s it! The concept is simple and the fun is what you and your partner make of it. Remember that sexual activity of any kind isn’t required, but it’s the intention. 

What To During During Your Date

If you’re just starting out, you may be at a loss for what to do on your Sex Date. Don’t worry, I’m here to help! Here are a few popular ideas you and your partner can explore together:

  • Have sex of any kind
  • Talk about sex
  • Discuss fantasies 
  • Bring in something new
  • Read erotica together
  • Watch porn together
  • Try a new toy
  • Masturbate together

Tips For Success

Start flirting before the date starts – like days before. Sex doesn’t start in the bedroom. Be flirty in person or over text messages. Talk descriptively about what is going to happen on your date throughout the week. 

Be sure you and your partner are on the same page. If you are trying something new for the first time, have a debriefing conversation before the date. This creates a safe space for all involved so you can jump right into the fun at the start of the date. 

It’s important to create a ritual for sex in the relationship. Rituals aid in creating erotic feelings which help partners build a foundation for sexual intention and communication!

David Fishman