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How is your sex life? Do you think it can be better?

We don’t need to be settling for the status quo as far as the bedroom goes. We can have the best sex even if you have been having meh sex for years. Here are six tips to have better sex in 2015:

Better Sex Tip #1

Make sex and your relationship a top priority. We must make sex a priority in our lives. Great sex requires time and effort. We expect to have great sex nestled in after a long day at work, raising kids, and having a social life. Schedule a time for sex. Great sex requires 30 minutes at minimum. If we sprinkle in long sessions of sex with the occasional quickie, even a quickie will feel more satisfying.

Better Sex Tip #2

Kegel exercises are a must for both men and women for great sex. It is the best way to exercise the PC Muscle (pubococcygeus muscle) also known as the sex muscle in all humans. The PC muscle is located at the very base of the body connecting the coxis and the pubic bones like a sling. The muscle contracts rhythmically during orgasm causing the bells to ring and firework to go off.

A strong PC Muscle for the women means a tighter vagina that has better blood flow that improves arousal. It also makes for longer and more intense orgasms not to mention more of them among other benefits. In men, not only will it improve the intensity of the orgasm but can also be the key to many erectile issues and ejaculatory control. This gives men the ability to have sex as long as they want without ejaculating and may even make it possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculating.

Exercises for Women

Exercises for Men

Better Sex Tip #3

Improving communication skills both internally and with your partner/s is a must for better sex.

6 Tips for Better Sex in 2015We must be able to listen to our own body and express what our body desires without rejecting one’s partner. In return, listen to your partners and understand your partners’ desires without an automatic rejection of that desire. We cannot expect our partner/s, no matter if that partner is just for tonight or every night forever, to know what you want at any given moment.

Better Sex Tip #4

Sexual exploration is the key to finding new frontiers of sexual pleasure.

An old saying goes “you don’t know until you try it.” We limit our own pleasure by limiting sex to missionary on Tuesday with lights off. We discover new desires and open new doors of pleasurable experiences. Anything done in the same way with the same person or people day in day out will get stale and boring. Just like trying a new place of worship, cuisine, food, or traveling to a new place, the discovery of something new, exciting, energizing and fun brightens even the darkest of days.

Better Sex Tip #5

Be more playful in and out of the bedroom because great sex is fun.

Children have a lesson that we stubborn adults need to learn on how to be free. We need to allow our imagination and bodies go. I see kids playing with no care about what others think, they just run around looking to have fun and for most part click with all the other children. As adults we lose that freedom to just be and be happy. We only allow that side to come out at limited times like meeting a new lover or friend or getting a new gadget. After we let that inner child go for those brief enjoyable moments, we take that inner child and lock him/her in a basement shackled to a wall. Let that inner-child free because the inner-child holds the keys to our happiness, pleasure, joy, and youthful exuberance.

Better Sex Tip #6

Leading a healthy, sober, active life style is vitally important in improving ones sex life.

Poor health and addiction reap havoc on our whole bodies, reproductive organs included. Being in bad health is linked to genital desensitization, sexual dysfunction, low libido, mental illness, and a decrease in sexual hormonal production. Go for a jog, not only for your waist line but also for what’s below it.

I hope these tips help bring passion back to your life this year.

David Fishman